“Be the change you wish to see in the world” ~ the real meaning behind this famous quote.

As the world around us appears to be falling to pieces, we wonder what’s happened and what we can do to bring peace to our broken planet. This was forefront in my mind today, as I searched the internet for inspiration on today’s Motivation Movement article. Fate drew me to this article “Gandhi didn’t actually ever say “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Here’s the real quote…” written by Joseph Ranseth, a speaker, author and transformationist. It discusses the famous quote by Gandhi and the real meaning behind these famous words. It was absolutely perfect.

“And while all of this “be the change” talk is good counsel, if we dig a little bit deeper, we realize that he wasn’t just telling us to lead by example, or to not get caught up in other people’s business while we still have our own issues to deal with.” ~ Joseph Ranseth

This, oh so famous, quote “BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD”, is attributed to Gandhi, but Mr. Ranseth indicates Gandhi didn’t actually speak these famous words. The actual quote and meaning is much deeper. Before we get to that deeper meaning however, we should discuss why the notion of “be the change” is such a powerful one. Mr. Ranseth indicates three reasons for this. It:

  1. removes judgmental thinking from our minds.
  2. turns us away from complaining and toward self-transformation.
  3. creates a desire to transform the only part of the world which we control: OURSELVES.

If Gandhi didn’t speak those famous “be the change” words, what did he actually say?

“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” – Mahatma Gandhi

This quote speaks deep-rooted spiritual knowledge that we see the world as a reflection of the world within. The world is a mirror for how we view ourselves. In this full quote, Gandhi is guiding us to do the work of self-transformation. In most cases, we want to avoid facing ourselves, transforming ourselves. After all, who wants to do that? It’s so much easier to lash out at the world and blame others for our own problems and failings in life, but that’s not the answer.. There is no doubt that our world is broken. However, Gandhi is indicating here, if we want to change that world, and fix it, we need to look in the mirror, and fix ourselves first. We need to take a deep, long look in that mirror and cleanse ourselves of selfishness and insecurity.

“I try to make myself zero.” ~ Gandhi

Mr. Ranseth indicates, when Gandhi was asked how he gained so much power over the British empire he said: “I TRY TO MAKE MYSELF ZERO”. What does this mean exactly? This means to develop “selfless love” in every aspect of our lives. We only do things for the benefit of others, never for ourselves. In other words, we make ourselves zero.

Closing thoughts:

The current unrest in the world appears as the act of a society that is lost and in desperate need of direction and guidance. It’s easy to lash out at world leaders and a broken system and demand change. We must remember, that broken system was built by flawed individuals, just as lost as everyone else. Until we look in the mirror, and reflect on our own selfishness and insecurity, nothing will change. The current hate and violence, so prevalent around the world today, speaks volumes about how people view themselves. Now, more than ever, we must face the MAN IN THE MIRROR.

ANNOUNCEMENT!

This is my final post for awhile. My family and I are moving across the country. We will be leaving my current home in Virginia at the end of July, and traveling to Colorado to begin a new chapter of our lives. After much thought and consideration, I have decided to halt blog posts until after we get settled in Colorado. I am hoping to be back at the beginning of September, but am uncertain about this timeframe. I’ll keep you posted. I really hate to pull back, but I believe it’s necessary, in order to focus on my family and this important change in our lives. Don’t go anywhere! I’ll be back!

For my mother

My Mom came from a large family. She was one of 10 children who lived on a farm just outside Herreid, South Dakota. She learned early on, from my Grandmother and Grandfather, how to work hard. After graduating, she left the farm and became a Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN). Later, I watched as she went back to school to become a Registered Nurse (RN). She graduated with honors and was my example when I returned to school to get my master’s degree. I thought of my Mom when I returned to school. I remembered her hard work and sacrifice. I remembered her long hours studying at our kitchen table. Like her, I graduated Summa Cum Laude.

She continued to set amazing examples for me and my sister. As I grew, I watched as she worked as an RN volunteer with the Hospice program. I admired her for working in such a sad and difficult environment. It takes a strong and compassionate person to care for people you know won’t recover.

After her volunteer work with Hospice, she took a job as an RN in a local nursing home. The residents loved her, as she quickly became their advocate, making sure they always got what they needed when she was working. She would go the extra mile, often baking cakes and visiting when she could.

Even though she was quite strict with my sister and myself growing up, and we still have disagreements to this very day, I hope she knows I look to her example when I think of helping others. I remember her tough love lessons of hard work and sacrifice. She set the bar high and I don’t think I’ve yet reached it.

This is a photo was taken in June, 1987. That’s me, on the right, at age 18, with my mother at Mount Rushmore in the beautiful Black Hills of South Dakota.

In honor of mother’s day, yesterday, I’m posting a poem I wrote for my Mom in June, 2005, in honor of her 60th birthday. It describes me, talking to God before I was born. God is describing who he has chosen as a mother for me and how she would help me grow.

For My Mother

The Lord said to me, before I was born,
 “I’ve chosen the perfect Mother for you.”
With a smile on his face, beaming with pride,
 “Oh yes, this one’s quite special, it’s true.”

“She has a heart, as big as can be.”
He said, with a tear streaming down his face.
“There’s no one on Earth she wants to see hurt.
I’m sure she’ll be in this place.”

“She goes out of her way, to help those that she loves,
without a second thought in her heart.”
He turned to his head and looked into my eyes.
“She’ll be your advocate right from the start.”

He took my face gently into his hands.
“She won’t make life easy for you.
This one is willful, but that’s a good thing.
There’ll be lessons in all that you do.”

“You’ll make mistakes and bad choices it’s true.
But this Mother will see you through it.
She’ll use tough love and firm discipline
and teach you never to quit.”

“Well my child, it’s time for you to go.”
As he took me into his arms.
“There will be rough times, but you’re in good hands.
She’ll see you come to no harm.”

As a child and a teen, I forgot all his words,
making life hard for us all.
There were fights, tears and battles along the way,
but through it she stood tall.

As I look back on those years from the past,
I realized how right was the Lord.
What a fabulous person to have in my life.
For without her, I couldn’t soar.

The Motivation Movement: Anyway… (The REAL version!)

I am a bit under the weather today, so, I’m reposting this article. It was initially posted on my blog in January, 2017. The poem “Anyway”, continues to be a source of inspiration for me. This article discusses the true origins of this poem, which is normally attributed to St. Teresa of Calcutta. I hope you enjoy this repost.

The Original Article

Today’s inspiration was born on August 26, 1910 as Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu  in Macedonia. You know her as Mother Teresa of Calcutta, founder of the Order of the Missionaries of Charity. Mother Teresa was canonized as Saint Teresa of Calcutta in 2016.

There is a “poem” circulating that is often attributed to Saint Teresa. This poem goes by many names: Anyway, Do It Anyway or Final Analysis. In my research into Saint Teresa and the origins of this poem, I discovered this “poem” was actually a sign hung in Shishu Bhavan, Saint Teresa’s children’s home in Calcutta.** This sign contained the “Paradoxical Commandments” and the author is actually unknown.

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The Motivation Movement: The Girl in the Glass

Do you love yourself? I mean really, truly honest to goodness love yourself… to the core, with every fiber of your being? Do you love your body? Do you think you’re beautiful? Can you look in the mirror…smile and say…”Hey there good lookin‘!” Do you trust your instincts? Here’s the big one…DO YOU FEEL LOVABLE?

I can honestly answer NO to most of those questions. I’ve never felt very good about myself. I never trusted my instincts; didn’t think I was pretty; didn’t think I was smart. In fact, I really didn’t like myself much at all. And, for much of my life I suffered from depression, that came in waves. I’d be fine for a while, then suddenly, there’d be a tidal wave of sadness, paranoia and self hatred. I spent many hours alone, because I was so uncomfortable with my own self-image. I often let my paranoia get the better of me.  I was uncomfortable around others, shy and often wondering what they thought of me.

In all of that time I spent alone in my room growing up, I collected poetry. I LOVE poetry and have a small collection of very girly, teenage type poetry. I do write some of my own, but mostly collect poetry. Among the poems in my collection is the poem below called “The Girl in the Glass.” As I was researching for this article, I discovered this poem is an adaptation of a poem by Dale Wimbrow, called The Guy in the Glass, written in 1934. The poem talks about the importance of accepting, loving and trusting yourself. Because, at the end of the day, you’re only hurting yourself, if you can’t be your own best friend.

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I finally came out of my shell, when I was an adult, married with 2 kids.  I changed my diet and eating habits, which helped with the hormonal aspect of my depression. But the biggest change came when I began my spiritual journey. When you go on a spiritual quest, it forces you to do some soul searching. I prayed a lot and mediated. What else can you do to learn to love yourself unconditionally? Here are 7 tips from Deepak Chopra.

  1. Making contact with your inner self” – Through self-contemplation and meditation. This forces you to look inside yourself and answer the tough questions.
  2. Honestly facing your inner obstacles and resistance” – This means facing your flaws and being honest about them. One of the things that helped me was realizing that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. You may blame others, like parents or siblings or spouses or others for your insecurities, but you have to look at what those experiences taught you. There are two types of experiences in life: good experiences and lessons. There is a lesson in every bad thing that happens in your life.
  3. Dealing with old wounds” – When you start this process, especially when you consistently meditate, you’ll find things get worse before they get better. Old memories and scars will reemerge. You’ll need to deal with them, before you can completely heal. This is a part of the process with which you may need help. Talk to a friend, spouse or counselor.
  4. Forgiving your past” – This isn’t something you can pretend of fake. Forgiving is going to take time. Once you learn to accept yourself, and where you are in your life right now, you can learn to forgive those who have caused you harm or abuse.
  5. Accepting where you are right now “-  This is the one where you have to say…”what’s done is done,” which will take time. You can’t change the past, so you need to learn to accept where you are and the person you are at this moment.
  6. Forming relationships where you feel loved and appreciated” –  This process will be better if you walk the path with a loved one. For me, I had my husband, who helped and supported me every step of the way. This is also an uncomfortable time, because you will realize there are people, in your life, who are no longer in sync with your new viewpoints and lifestyle. It’s okay to find new people who can support you, while you walk this new path.
  7. Practicing the kind of love you aspire to receive” – You’ve probably heard the saying “what goes around, comes around.” Karma baby! Karma isn’t always bad. Karma is simply the law of attraction. What you do to or for others, will come back to you. The more love and kindness you give to the world, the more you will receive. It’s the golden rule…TREAT OTHERS HOW YOU WISH TO BE TREATED.

I’m closing out with a song today…

As I was looking for a song to go with my poem today, I found a video of Sophia Grace and her cousin Rosie, from Essex, England, as they appeared on the Ellen Show. Sophia Grace is 8 and Rosie is 5.  Sophia has an absolutely AMAZING voice!

Here they are on Ellen:

Here is Sophia Grace singing

“Girl in the Mirror”,

a fitting song for our

Motivation Monday.

ENJOY…

and don’t forget to

love that girl in the mirror!

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Have you seen this? Human Family ~ Maya Angelou

I turned an assignment in yesterday, so I had a little extra time. I came across this beautiful poem by Maya Angelou and wanted to share it with all of you. Whether you’ve seen it, or not, it’s quite inspiring and worth a look. 

She talks about how we are each unique. If you travel the world, you won’t find any people who are identical, even twins are different. However, these are just differences on the surface: our skin tone, our hair color, our eye color, our height or weight. 

But, when you look within people, get past our outer shell,

we are all more similar than we are different. 

We all strive for what we love. 

We all cry, laugh, love, and feel.

We all bleed red.

We are all human

At the end of the day…

“We are more alike my friends,

than we are unalike”

God bless! Namaste!

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