“Be the change you wish to see in the world” ~ the real meaning behind this famous quote.

As the world around us appears to be falling to pieces, we wonder what’s happened and what we can do to bring peace to our broken planet. This was forefront in my mind today, as I searched the internet for inspiration on today’s Motivation Movement article. Fate drew me to this article “Gandhi didn’t actually ever say “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Here’s the real quote…” written by Joseph Ranseth, a speaker, author and transformationist. It discusses the famous quote by Gandhi and the real meaning behind these famous words. It was absolutely perfect.

“And while all of this “be the change” talk is good counsel, if we dig a little bit deeper, we realize that he wasn’t just telling us to lead by example, or to not get caught up in other people’s business while we still have our own issues to deal with.” ~ Joseph Ranseth

This, oh so famous, quote “BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD”, is attributed to Gandhi, but Mr. Ranseth indicates Gandhi didn’t actually speak these famous words. The actual quote and meaning is much deeper. Before we get to that deeper meaning however, we should discuss why the notion of “be the change” is such a powerful one. Mr. Ranseth indicates three reasons for this. It:

  1. removes judgmental thinking from our minds.
  2. turns us away from complaining and toward self-transformation.
  3. creates a desire to transform the only part of the world which we control: OURSELVES.

If Gandhi didn’t speak those famous “be the change” words, what did he actually say?

“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” – Mahatma Gandhi

This quote speaks deep-rooted spiritual knowledge that we see the world as a reflection of the world within. The world is a mirror for how we view ourselves. In this full quote, Gandhi is guiding us to do the work of self-transformation. In most cases, we want to avoid facing ourselves, transforming ourselves. After all, who wants to do that? It’s so much easier to lash out at the world and blame others for our own problems and failings in life, but that’s not the answer.. There is no doubt that our world is broken. However, Gandhi is indicating here, if we want to change that world, and fix it, we need to look in the mirror, and fix ourselves first. We need to take a deep, long look in that mirror and cleanse ourselves of selfishness and insecurity.

“I try to make myself zero.” ~ Gandhi

Mr. Ranseth indicates, when Gandhi was asked how he gained so much power over the British empire he said: “I TRY TO MAKE MYSELF ZERO”. What does this mean exactly? This means to develop “selfless love” in every aspect of our lives. We only do things for the benefit of others, never for ourselves. In other words, we make ourselves zero.

Closing thoughts:

The current unrest in the world appears as the act of a society that is lost and in desperate need of direction and guidance. It’s easy to lash out at world leaders and a broken system and demand change. We must remember, that broken system was built by flawed individuals, just as lost as everyone else. Until we look in the mirror, and reflect on our own selfishness and insecurity, nothing will change. The current hate and violence, so prevalent around the world today, speaks volumes about how people view themselves. Now, more than ever, we must face the MAN IN THE MIRROR.


This is my final post for awhile. My family and I are moving across the country. We will be leaving my current home in Virginia at the end of July, and traveling to Colorado to begin a new chapter of our lives. After much thought and consideration, I have decided to halt blog posts until after we get settled in Colorado. I am hoping to be back at the beginning of September, but am uncertain about this timeframe. I’ll keep you posted. I really hate to pull back, but I believe it’s necessary, in order to focus on my family and this important change in our lives. Don’t go anywhere! I’ll be back!

The Motivation Movement: Anyway… (The REAL version!)

I am a bit under the weather today, so, I’m reposting this article. It was initially posted on my blog in January, 2017. The poem “Anyway”, continues to be a source of inspiration for me. This article discusses the true origins of this poem, which is normally attributed to St. Teresa of Calcutta. I hope you enjoy this repost.

The Original Article

Today’s inspiration was born on August 26, 1910 as Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu  in Macedonia. You know her as Mother Teresa of Calcutta, founder of the Order of the Missionaries of Charity. Mother Teresa was canonized as Saint Teresa of Calcutta in 2016.

There is a “poem” circulating that is often attributed to Saint Teresa. This poem goes by many names: Anyway, Do It Anyway or Final Analysis. In my research into Saint Teresa and the origins of this poem, I discovered this “poem” was actually a sign hung in Shishu Bhavan, Saint Teresa’s children’s home in Calcutta.** This sign contained the “Paradoxical Commandments” and the author is actually unknown.

Continue reading “The Motivation Movement: Anyway… (The REAL version!)”

Touching Lives: The Science of Kindness

As a wellness educator, I teach people that all areas of wellness affect our health. It isn’t just about the health of our physical body. It isn’t just about nutrition. It isn’t just about exercise. It’s about the health of the BODY, MIND AND SOUL.

I love to inspire people, something I haven’t been doing lately. You may wonder why I would want to focus so much on inspiring people. Shouldn’t I just stick to food and talking about food, and other areas of physical wellness?

My blog is about more than just food. It’s about healing your entire being, your body, mind and soul. Inspiring you heals your spirit and emotional wellness. Meditation and yoga help with stress relief, which is healing for physical and emotional wellness. Telling you about non-profits, helps inspire you to be kind and inspires your social wellness.

Wait, what? How does being kind have anything to do with healing the body, mind and soul? Well, it ABSOLUTELY helps you heal your soul, that’s a given. But what if I told you that there is actual science behind kindness…Science that proves being kind helps the body and mind as well?! Here is a short 2:00 video from LIFE VEST INSIDE, explaining the science behind kindness. ENJOY!!

As the video indicates, kindness does the following for you:

  • a natural anti-depressant, by boosting levels of serotonin in our brains, as well as the brains of the “giver, the receiver and everyone who witnesses [the kind act].”
  • boosts endorphins, a natural pain killer that are “three times more effective than morphine.”
  • produces oxytocin, which promotes social bonding, boosts calming, increases trust/generosity, and strengthens the immune system.
  • Compassionate people have 2x the amount of DHEA, which slows aging.
  • Compassionate people have 23% less cortisol, the stress hormone

Since kindness is such an important part of whole body wellness, I’ve decided to devote the last Monday of each month to kindness with this series “Touching Lives”. This series will highlight kind acts or non-profit organizations that are helping others. If you have any kind acts you’d like highlighted, let me know in the comments or send me an email to tamara@purplealmondwellness.com

As the Dalai Lama says…

“Be kind whenever possible and it’s always possible.”.

Until next time, Namaste my friends.


Kindness Counts: The Gift of Music

Good afternoon everyone! Today’s Kindness Counts post is a bit special, as I am announcing the 2 winners of my CELEBRATING 2000 FOLLOWERS giveaway. I’ll get to them in a bit, but first, let’s talk about kindness counts for today.

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Do you find times where you want to express to someone just how important they are to you? You want to give them a gift, but aren’t sure just how or what to give them. Maybe today’s kind act will help inspire you.

**Kindness Counts Act

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**Kindess Counts Quote


**Orly’s reflections: (1)

Communicating wasn’t my student Diane’s strong suit. As a teacher it was my favorite pastime to see the beauty within my students so that they could eventually see it in themselves. It’s why I became a teacher. But with each student the method of communication can be quite different. She wasn’t able to express her thoughts and emotions verbally, and so music became Diane’s voice. 

Middle school was filled with hardship for her, but watching her grow into the person I knew she could be gave me the greatest pleasure. She gifted me with a CD expressing, through songs, how grateful she was to know that she could confide in me, knowing that as much as she may have tried to push me away I was there if she needed someone. As the day of eighth-grade graduation approached, I prepared myself to let go knowing that it was time for her to move on to the next chapter of her life. All I could hope for was that the lessons she had learned in my classroom would stay in her heart and help her stay the course. Whenever I pop that CD in, the memories fill my heart and I’m transported back to my classroom with the knowledge that I did leave an impression. Sometimes reassurance is all we need.

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My thoughts:

Music, for me, is about the words, more than the tune. I have a list of songs, ranging from christian, to country to pop to hard rock to 60’s folk music (my personal favorite) that I absolutely LOVE for the message in the lyrics.

As humans, we often can’t communicate with each other due to language barriers, but there’s one thing everyone understands, and that’s music. It unites us, inspires us, and makes us feel good, all the way to our soul.

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here are the 2 winners of my


 (The winners below were randomly selected by gleam.io.)

I’ll be highlighting each of their blogs this coming Thursday, so be on the lookout for that. The winners have been notified and are anxiously awaiting their packages.

Inspired by the kind act for today, I’ve put together a short playlist of songs for each of the winners, as my gift and thank you to them.

So, without further adieu, here are the 2 winners:

Winner #1

Joann Maxwell

Fearless in Jesus




Joann, here’s my playlist for you. I hope you find the songs as inspiring as I do. Songs 3 and 4 on the list are my personal favorite church hymns. They were played at my infant son’s funeral on February 4, 1995.

Enjoy, and thank you for following me and being such an amazing friend.:

  1. Anyway – Martina McBride
  2. You Raise Me Up – Josh Groban
  3. On Eagles Wings – Michael Joncas
  4. Be Not Afraid – John Michael Talbot
  5. Angels Among Us – Alabama – Here’s that video!

Winner #2

Christy Birmingham

When Women Inspire




Christy, here’s my playlist for you. I hope you enjoy these songs. The words of these songs truly move me and inspire me, much as the inspiring words of your blog.

Enjoy, and thank you for following me. I’m so happy to have made a new friend in you. :

  1.  Roar- Katy Perry
  2.  Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
  3. Brave – Sara Bareilles
  4. The Voice Within – Christina Aguilera
  5.  I was here -Beyonce – Here’s that video!


My Kindness Counts posts are based on the book Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts by Orly Wahba. The book contains 365 random acts of kindness, a quote for each and Orly’s reflections on each act. While I won’t be sharing every one, I pick the ones I feel will have the greatest impact. **

  1. Wahba, Orly. Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts (p. 232). Flatiron Books. Kindle Edition.

Kindness Counts: Spread the Love

Hello everyone! I’m back from my 2 week hiatus from blogging. I can tell you I definitely missed it. Being away from my blog helps me realize just how much I love blogging/writing and keeping in touch with my blogging family.

So the first week I took off to get caught up on homework. Which I did…in a way. I got my assignment turned in with a few minutes to spare, but was unable to get all of my reading done. My son was home with a cold/flu/something, and my focus was on him. I meant to also get my newsletter(s) out, but that got pushed to the back burner as well.


My goal was to come back on February 4, but I was called to Federal Jury Duty. I knew a while ago that I would be on call for jury duty for 2 weeks, beginning on February 2, but didn’t know when I’d have to go. As it turns out, I was called in on Monday, February 4, the day I was supposed to return. Luckily, I didn’t get chosen for the jury. The trial was quite big and long, lasting at least 3 weeks! Jury selection took 2 days, putting me further behind on my homework/reading/assignments and blog newsletters. I’m still on call for the remainder of this week, but hopefully, I won’t have to go back in.

So, anyway, here I am, back in the swing of things. I am caught up on reading for my current unit, but have an assignment due tomorrow night. Ah, at least life is never boring.

Well on with the article. With Valentines day coming up on Wednesday, I felt the theme of “spreading the love” was a fitting way to celebrate Kindness Counts** for this month.

Kindness Counts Act:


Kindess Counts Quote:


Orly’s Refections: (2)

“One day I stepped into a cafe to charge my cell phone. I saw the barista hand a customer a cup of coffee with a smile and say, “You have a wonderful day now!” I also noticed the silence as the woman took her coffee, walked out, and didn’t cast a glance at the barista. I recognized my opportunity. After all, that is what kindness is: an opportunity. I fumbled within my bag, pulled out a kindness card and handed it to the barista. “This is for you!” She hesitantly took it but as she read the card, her smile returned. 

“Tag, you’re it! You’ve been spotted performing an Act of Kindness! Now it’s your turn to keep your eyes peeled and pass this along the next time you catch someone in the act!” With that I handed her a stack of cards. “Pass these along to customers that are particularly kind,” I said. Ignoring kindness can cause one to question whether it matters, and whether they matter. On the other end of the spectrum, it’s truly extraordinary how simply acknowledging an act of kindness can and will inspire a person to continue seeking out those opportunities.”


Closing thoughts:

How do you “spread the love”? It doesn’t have to be anything big, or bold or even expensive. It can be simple, such as holding the door for someone, or letting someone go ahead of you at the checkout line. Maybe you’re on the subway and like an outfit someone is wearing, TELL THEM! Who cares if you don’t know them? You just may make their day. AND, they just may pass on some kindness to others, because of what you said or did.

Do you need some ideas on how to spread the love? I found a wonderful list of 103 Random Kind Acts at www.bradaronson.com

Here are 10 of them:

  1. Give someone a compliment
  2. Send a postcard to sick children. Go to Cards for Hospitalized Kids
  3. Make little gift baskets for the kids in your neighborhood.
  4. If you’re an Amazon.com customer you can donate Amazon.com’s money to your favorite U.S. nonprofit through Amazon Smile.
  5. “When you buy goods from over 1,700 other online retailers you can use iGive to have that retailer donate money to your favorite charity. This includes major retailers like Best Buy, Expedia, Bed Bath and Beyond, and others.” (1)
  6. Help a teacher get the supplies needed for class. DonorsChoose.org
  7. Collect soda can tabs to donate to Ronald McDonald House for sick children and their families.
  8. Cook an extra portion of dinner (or dessert) for someone who needs it. Aid for Friends is a Philadelphia area nonprofit that delivers about 500,000 meals yearly to people in need. It started with one woman’s small acts of kindness. She made an extra meal each night to give to someone who needed it. Read her amazing story.” (1)
  9. “Write letters to strangers who need them. More Love Letters has a list of people who could benefit from letters of encouragement. Each person has been added to the web site by a friend or family member.” (1)
  10. “Send cards to lonely seniors. 13-year-old Jacob Cramer started Love for the Elderly, which distributes letters to American seniors via senior centers and nonprofit organizations. This page explains how you can send a postal letter.” (1)

For more ideas on how to spread the love through kind acts, FOLLOW THIS LINK.


While spreading love is important, I think it’s just as important to acknowledge when others are acting in a kind way, as Orly says in her reflections. You can perform a kind act simply by acknowledging the kind act of another person. As Mother Teresa says in the above quote, everyone you encounter in your life, should leave a happier person.

Now, if you’ve been following me for a while, you know how much I LOVE videos. So, here are four videos, showcasing examples of people “spreading the love”. Whether you watch one or all four, I hope they inspire you to SPREAD THE LOVE!

Spreading Love in New York City

Saying “I Love You” to Strangers

Spread the Love Project

The Love Project

with Tiki Caldwell


 Sharing love in a different way this

valentine’s giving back to the less fortunate.

This took place just this past weekend. Have a look!

Website: https://loveproject.app.rsvpify.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theloveproject18/

** My Kindness Counts posts are based on the book Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts by Orly Wahba. The book contains 365 random acts of kindness, a quote for each and Orly’s reflections on each act. While I won’t be sharing every one, I pick the ones I feel will have the greatest impact. **



  1. http://www.bradaronson.com/acts-of-kindness/
  2. Wahba, Orly. Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts (p. 45). Flatiron Books. Kindle Edition

Daily Inspiration: A Musical Tribute

This article was first posted on January 14, 2017…

UPDATE-JANUARY 14, 2018- I’m reminiscing once again today. This is a post from one year ago, when I reached 1000 likes. It has been an amazing year! I’m so grateful to each and everyone of you. Starting this blog was one of the best decisions I ever made. As a thank you, here is a musical tribute. It includes 3 music videos. The songs  all have a “thank you” theme. Thanks for following and liking my posts. Love you all!


1000 LIKES! WOW!



I am speechless. I can’t believe it. This is absolutely amazing.  I had no idea I was anywhere close to this number. I went to make dinner, when I came back, I had this message on my wordpress.com board. You guys are amazing and I can’t thank you enough for following me, for taking the time to read and enjoy my articles, but most of all, thank you for your friendship and inspiration.



I wanted to do something special, but nothing seemed good enough. So I settled for three thank you songs.  We’ll go from newest to oldest.  Thank you so much! Enjoy!

First up-Kelly Clarkson with THANKFUL

Next is-ABBA with a live version of Thank you for the music from 1979

Finally, I saved the best for last-here is Nat King Cole singing Thanks to You

Thank you all one final time. I had something else planned for the daily inspiration tonight, but it will be posted tomorrow night. It will be a rather serious daily inspiration, but an important topic and a non-profit that is doing amazing things. So, pleased stay tuned.









Kindness Counts: The Rainforest Hero

Did you know that forests cover 30% of the Earth’s surface? (2) Trees are a very important part of our ecosystem. To name just a few things, trees… provide oxygen; combat climate change by absorbing CO2; absorb pollutants; prevent water pollution by preventing runoff; provide food; provide over 121 natural remedies; and  provide a habitat for wild life. (3) But, despite this, 18 million acres (7.3 million hectares) of forest are lost each year. (2)  This loss of forests “contributes between 12 percent and 17 percent of annual global greenhouse gas emissions.” (2)


Deforestation is a huge problem . But, just what is deforestation? According to Conserve Energy Future, deforestation is…

” the conversion of forested areas to non-forest land for use such as arable land, pasture, urban use, logged area, or wasteland. Deforestation can also be seen as removal of forests leading to several imbalances ecologically and environmentally and results in declines in habitat and biodiversity. Urbanization, Mining, Fires, Logging and Agricultural activities are few of the causes of deforestation.”

Here are some other startling facts about deforestation: (2)

  • One and a half acres of forest are cut down every second
  • 4500 acres of forest every hour, are cleared by forest fires, bull dozers, or machetes
  • In the last two decades, Afghanistan has lost over 70% of its forests throughout the country
  • It is estimated that within 100 years there will be no rainforests.
  • The rate of deforestation equals to loss of 20 football fields every minute.
  • 20% of the world’s oxygen is produced in the Amazon forest.
  • 25% of cancers fighting organisms are found in the amazon.
  • Almost half of world’s timber and up to 70% of paper is consumed by Europe, United States and Japan alone.
  • Soil erosion, floods, wildlife extinction, increase in global warming, and climate imbalance are few of the effects of deforestation
  • Tropical rainforests which cover 6-7% of the earth’s surface, contain over half of all the plant and animal species in the world.
  • The paper industry is fourth largest in producing greenhouse gas thereby majorly contributing to deforestation.

Today’s Kindness Counts Act:


Today’s Kindness Counts Quote


Orly’s Reflections:

“Nature speaks to us in more ways than one, empowering us simply by living its message. I’ve always found myself fascinated by trees. They make me wonder. Give me hope. Even with the force of gravity weighing down upon them they grow, strengthen, and build. In spite of the pressure to not rise above, to not reach, the tree continues to overcome. A tree is uninterested in the word “impossible”—recognizing that its greatest power comes from the inside out. It may appear weak and nimble to the onlooker, but deep beneath the surface it grows, it strengthens, it builds, preparing itself for the unexpected day when it will emerge and rise above all those who bet against it, who questioned its endurance.”

Closing thoughts:

As I sit in the quiet of the forest, I am lost to the peace and energy that permeates my being. I absolutely love being in the forest. When I am amongst the trees, I feel at one with the world, unified with our disconnected society. All worries wash away…all stress fades…all concerns are lifted and carried away by these majestic guardians of this beautiful planet we call home.


Trees have always held an air of mystery throughout mythology and history. To some, forests serve as protection and providers of food, weapons and shelter. To others forests are a scary and mysterious place full of the unknown.

This reminds me of the legend of Robin Hood as his men. For Robin Hood, the forest was their home, providing shelter and sustenance. On the other hand, for the Sheriff, the forest was full of unknowns, evil spirits and danger.

For me, walking through a forest is symbolic of a spiritual journey. The forest represents the mysteries for which I am searching, such as why we are here, what happens after we die, what is a soul, is there one right religion…well, you get the idea. I could go on. As I walk through my spiritual forest in search of answers to my questions, as well as for unity, love and enlightenment, the trees keep me at peace, as well as provide me with the protection and the energy I need on my journey.

As Orly says above, a tree doesn’t know “impossible. It just is…growing stronger,  living in the moment and reaching for heaven. The mighty  tree started it’s life as a small little nut, and against the odds, persevered and grew, not only taller, and stronger, but stretching its roots ever deeper, so as to weather the coming storms.

As you can see, my love of trees is strong and deep. Which is why it saddens me to see these beautiful and majestic beings destroyed at such an alarming rate. But, you can help…

How you can help:

  • Re- use paper and plastic bags to discourage deforestation.
  • Use canvas or paper bags as another alternative
  • Pick products which require less packaging.
  • One can save up to 20 square feet of forest with online contributions thereby conveniently prevent deforestation.
  • Be creative and mail manufacturers telling them to use eco-friendly products. Show them your deforestation knowledge by highlighting certain important facts using statistics.
  • Sign effective petitions that work and help reduce deforestation.
  • Support eco-friendly companies buy buying their products that promise more durability in an inexpensive way.
  • Be active and plant trees- it can be at your homes, backyards or you can join any organization keen on stopping deforestation.


Ways you can

plant a tree or donate money:

  • Shop at Ten Tree.  This company will plant ten trees for every item purchased from their website.
  • Shop at Eminence. Every time you buy Eminence Organic Skin Care, they plant a tree for every product sold.
  • Buy Sprout pencils. Sprout produces the world’s first sustainable pencil that you can plant after use.
  • Think about using a Bios Urn, after you die. World’s first biodegradable urn designed to convert you into a tree after life.
  • Donate money to the Rainforest alliance.
  • Join the Arbor Day Foundation for just $10 and get 10 free trees.

Finally, here is an inspiring video of Reynaldo Ochoa, a wonderful man in Peru, who inspired his community to live in balance with their environment. He teaches people to use “agroforestry” and permaculture. He has personally planted over 30,000 trees.



  1. Wahba, Orly. Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts (p. 42). Flatiron Books. Kindle Edition.
  2. https://www.conserve-energy-future.com/various-deforestation-facts.php
  3. https://www.treepeople.org/resources/tree-benefits

Kindness Counts: Do something drastic…cut the plastic!

Today’s Kindness Counts is something near and dear to my heart, mainly because my son is so passionate about this topic, saving the oceans from plastic  pollution.


There are now eleven ocean garbage patches in oceans around the world, destroying our environment and killing marine life. The biggest is the Great Pacific Garbage Patch, which is 270,000 square miles, approximately the size of Texas.


The plastic breaks down into tiny pieces, which the animals mistake for food. Five species are in danger of dying out, due to this plastic overload (2):



  1. Sea Turtles
  2. Seals and Sea Lions
  3. Sea Birds
  4. Fish
  5. Whales and Dolphins


Here’s today’s Kindness Counts Act and quote:

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Sometimes the little things are the big things. Isn’t it wonderful that a simple positive action has the potential to become something impactful? You matter because your actions matter regardless of how trivial they seem sometimes. Own it and soon you’ll see just how big the small things are.” ~ Orly Wahba – Kindness Boomerang (1)

Closing Thoughts:


Did you know, if you use just 1 reusable grocery bag, you save 6 plastic bags from getting into the environment? That equates to 22,176 bags in a lifetime. If just 20% of the people in our country would do this, we would save 1,330,560,000,000 bags over our lifetime.

“But I recycle my plastic bags!” I hear many people say. Did you know that only 1% of our plastic bags are recycled AND it costs more to recycle plastic bags, than it does to make new ones?  Watch this short video (3:46) for more info/facts on plastic pollution.

Orly is absolutely right. Using a cloth grocery bag may be a very small gesture in the grand scheme of life, but these little gestures add up, especially if we all work together. In closing, I’d like to share this song with you called PLASTIC OCEAN. ENJOY!



  1. Wahba, Orly. Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts (p. 342). Flatiron Books. Kindle Edition.
  2. http://www.onegreenplanet.org/animalsandnature/marine-animals-are-dying-because-of-our-plastic-trash/u

The Gift of Kindness At Christmas

Wonderful thoughts on giving the gift of kindness this year.


IMG_1098At Christmas, it’s easy to get caught up in the seasonal excitement of buying and exchanging often expensive gifts we can’t afford and they don’t really need. We look forward to seeing the faces of our loved ones light up when they open our presents, the all-round smiles say it all. But sometimes it can be just a temporary happiness: the item breaks down, doesn’t fit, goes out of fashion or needs updating, it wasn’t the right model, they already have two… And then the credit card bill often provides one heck of a shock in January.

Many of us are feeling the pinch this year and Christmas can be a worrying time financially. But there are other ways of giving that bring joy and make a positive difference to the lives of the recipients which won’t almost bankrupt us when the festive season is over. There are…

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Kindness Counts: How to believe in yourself

In case you’re new to my blog, this is a series that started it’s life as a series called “Happiness is..” based on the book “HAPPINESS IS…500 THINGS TO BE HAPPY ABOUT.” In that series, I posted random quotes from that book, along with inspiring quotes and a prayer.

I have set that book aside in favor of a new book called: “Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts“. This book, written by Orly Wahba, founder of the non-profit organization Life Vest Inside,  includes 365 random acts of kindness, along with a quote and Orly’s reflections for each kind act.


In this series, I select acts of kindness from the book to include in the article, along with the kind act quote and Orly’s reflections on that act. At the end are my thoughts on the kind act and an inspirational video. I hope you enjoy the latest in this series!

Here’s the Kindness Counts act for this month:

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A kindness counts quote to ponder:


Orly’s Reflections:

“Faith and belief in your capabilities aren’t things someone can give you. They must be developed, nurtured, and cultivated by no one else but you! Believing in yourself when times are good is a given. The question is whether you can withstand the urge to give up when the road ahead isn’t so clear, and it seems as though you are in the midst of a storm with no sign of refuge. Every person must and should go through their very own period of hardship and discovery bringing them to call on an inner strength they wouldn’t have found if not pushed to the limits. You may not have achieved the long list of accomplishments you thought you would have already crossed off, but never stop believing in your ability to reach your goal. Practice a bit of understanding with yourself and hold close to your heart the words of Walter D. Wintle, “Success begins with a fellow’s will. It’s all in a state of mind.”


My thoughts:

Believing in myself…wow…that’s a tall order! I’ve never been very good at that. The belief in myself has been nonexistent most of my life. I’ve had negative chatter in my head quite often, you know the type:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not smart (Okay, that’s a mild version. Most of the time I just say I’m plain stupid.)
  • I’m ugly
  • What will other people think if I do this…

I could go on…but you get the idea. Being kind to others has always come quite easily, but being kind to myself, not so much. I think many people can relate to that.


But, I’ve had a good life. I grew up in a good home, wanting for nothing. My parents always made sure I had everything I ever needed or wanted. I’ve been married for 25+ years to the love of my life. I have 2 amazing kids. I’ve lived over seas and traveled the world. I am going to school to get a master’s degree in a field I love and for which my passion is boundless. (My extended family would say I’m a bit too passionate.) I’m on the President’s list with a 4.0 gpa. AND…I have you guys

My schooling gave me direction, a goal to shoot for, but this blog, and all of you are what turned things around for me. It gave me hope and confidence in myself. It gave me the courage to be myself. It helped me realize I have worth…I am smart…I don’t care what others think of me. But most of all, it helped me believe in myself.


The video

The inspirational video I found for this article is a Ted Talk called HOW TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF by: Jim Cathcart. Some of his inspiring words are in the above quotes. Here is part of the description from youtube:

“Jim Cathcart thought he would never make a difference. An average student from a working class family with no athletic or special skills, he expected an unremarkable existence. But one radio message in 1972 changed the direction of his life & authored his belief in his potential. Today, he’s a Hall of Fame Speaker, and has authored 16 books. While changing himself, Jim also discovered how to help others believe in themselves, too. “

This video, about 8 minutes long, is AMAZING and so inspiring. Jim is a wonderful speaker. He uses an acorn as an analogy for his lesson. Here are a few of his tips on HOW TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:

  • Respect your nature – realize  your legacy.
    • You are not a biological coincidence. You were intentionally created for a purpose
    • Find out what you’re supposed to do with your life and do it as well as you can.
  • Know your nature. Know yourself…
    • How are you smart
    • what do you care about
    • what is your philosophy of life
  • Apply your nature. Nurture your nature.
    • You were born with the gift to make the world a better place
    • You are valuable.

So what will be your “radio program”?

What will be the one thing

that will change the course of your life…


Remember, ask yourself every day:

How would the person I’d like to be, do the things I’m about to do?

Plant your acorn,

discover your purpose




Source: Wahba, Orly. Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts (p. 28). Flatiron Books. Kindle Edition.