Middle-Age Memoirs : Dealing with a future empty nest


My youngest son is graduating from high school in two weeks. I’ve been working on a photo slideshow for his graduation party, which is part of the reason this memoir entry is late coming out. 

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As I look back at the photos and memories of the past 18 years with that wonderful, funny, unique, intelligent and special soul, I am both proud and sad. Proud of the life we’ve lived. We’ve had a wonderful life together, as we travelled the world, lived over seas and experienced life together. I look back at the child he was, and look at the man he is becoming and am so proud. I also look back at the child he was, and the man he is becoming and am sad that he will be spreading his wings and leaving the nest. The thought terrifies me. But I know we raised him well. He is a good person, with a calm demeanor. He doesn’t get riled easily, and will do wonderfully with everything challenge he is handed.

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It’s time to brag a bit. He will be graduating with honors, and as part of 5 different honor societies. He is looking to major in oceanography/marine  biology and ocean engineering. He has loved everything about the ocean for as long as I can remember. It was always a given that he would do something with water or sea life.

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  • PHOTO: GREECE (2005)

He will be attending Old Dominion University in the fall, where he will begin working toward his engineering and marine science degrees. His ultimate goal is ocean engineering, so he will need to transfer at some point. There are only a handful of schools in the country with ocean engineering, that also have oceanography and marine biology and all are quite pricey.

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Photo: Chaco Canyon National Park (2012)

Closing thoughts

Yes, I will be an empty nester soon. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I didn’t handle it well when my oldest son moved out. I was in a deep funk for weeks. I’m a Mom, it’s who I am, and what I’ve been for more than 20 years. I love and care for the people in my life. I’m not sure how I’ll handle being an empty nester. Maybe, just maybe, I’ll learn to focus on and care for myself instead?

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Photo: Miami

Until next time…Namaste my friends


Author: Tamara Hoerner

Welcome to The Purple Almond Wellness I’m Tamara Hoerner, MHNE, wellness educator and founder of Purple Almond Wellness. I work with middle-age individuals to help support brain health and develop whole body wellness, in order to improve the quality of their mid-life years. Heart and Alzheimer’s diseases run in my family and I struggled with weight loss, so I strive to help others with similar conditions. Using only nutrition, I rid my body of seasonal allergies, Psoriatic Arthritis and migraines, as well as cured my insomnia. I know what it takes to use food as medicine, especially in middle age. As a wellness educator and Summa Cum Laude graduate of Hawthorn University, I develop personalized nutrition plans and wellness education sessions, to help clients. For me, the name Purple Almond symbolizes “Good, nutritious, whole food bringing light and life to the body, awakening the inherent healing mechanisms within.” I'm all about getting back to the basics, good old fashioned traditional organic, whole food, the kind your great-grandmother used to eat. You'll find no processed foods here. Just good food to heal your whole body. I also believe a healthy body isn't just about food. Stress plays a large part in the physical health of our body. I, therefore, believe in using anything that relieves stress and heals the body, including: mediation, yoga, music, laughter, inspiration and helping others. You'll find all these included in my blog as well.

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