From the time my kids could understand words, one of the first things I tried to teach was THE GOLDEN RULE: to treat others how we wish to be treated. I try to lead by example…letting someone go ahead of me at the grocery store…holding the door open for someone…helping when someone drops something. I LOVE helping people…because making others happy makes me happy. It is such a habit at this point in my life, I don’t even think about it half the time. If I see that someone needs help, I normally act before I even realize what’s happening.
Another thing my kids (and husband) often hear from me is “Well, how would you feel if you were in that position…or if you were that person…or if that happened to you?” I always try to look at things from the other person’s perspective, and am CONSTANTLY encouraging those around me to do the same.
People often don’t realize just how powerful a simple act of kindness is…and what an impact it can have on the life of those around you. Even a simple smile can do wonders.
That’s where my new
Friday series comes in called:
The article will be based on the work of Orly Wahba, founder of the organization Life Vest Inside. I highlighted Orly’s Ted Talk in an article earlier today. I’ll be using her book Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts. The idea is for the article to be a combination of HAPPINESS IS and FEEL GOOD FRIDAY posts.
The book contains 365 kind acts to help yourself, or other people. Along with each act, Orly includes a quote and some thoughts about the act. Every 2 weeks, I’ll be sharing another kind act from the book, along with some thoughts of my own. Feel Good Friday isn’t going away completely. I’ll still be posting those every 2 weeks as well.
Here’s this week’s Random Kindness Act:
This week’s Kindness Counts quote:
What Orly Says: (1)
“What is judgment but fear of admitting our flaws and insecurities in our beliefs? Simple introspection and acknowledgment that we are all human and, at times, make errors in judgment equips us with the ability and know-how to see the other side of the coin.”
I think we are all guilty of judging others. Sometimes it just slips out…we can’t help it. Someone walks by in a different haircut and we whisper to our friends…”Psst…hey did you see that hair?” or another person walks by who is a bit heavier than most people and we snicker and elbow each other.
I am guilty of this as well. I try VERY hard not to judge others, but it does slip out on occasion. I try to catch myself, saying to myself “To each his own” or “We’re all human” or “Judge not lest ye be judged”
I also HATE gossip and try never to take part in any gossip sessions. Because what is gossip but a form of judging. Who are we to talk bad about other people? We aren’t perfect, none of us are. Jesus said it best when he spoke these words: “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” Besides, do you like it when people gossip about you? So why do it to other people?
How do you know when you’re being judgmental? (2)
I found an article on the website of JD Greear Ministries website which discusses some signs that you’re judging others:
- You are more enraged by someone else’s behavior than you are embarrassed by your own.
- You refuse to forgive (or when you forgive you refuse to forget)
- You “cut off” those who disagree with you.
- You gossip.
- You refuse to receive criticism.
- You write someone off as hopeless.
Here’s a scenario for you…
What if someone had a horrible day: they were late for work; they missed a meeting…They didn’t have time to eat lunch…you get the idea. They’re very crabby and in line behind you at the grocery store. They’ve been rude to everyone around them and complaining about the long, slow line. What do you do?
Will you be quick to judge. You didn’t know they had a bad day, you just assume they’re just a mean person…
Blow them off saying to yourself “Wow, how rude! What a mean, obnoxious person!”
Or, do you….help them with some kind acts…
Something falls out of their basket and you pick it up for them, smile and say “Why don’t you go ahead of me. You only have a few things and my basket is over flowing.” These small acts only took a few minutes out of your day, but you just may have turned that person’s day around. What if, as they were leaving, they hold the door open for someone…because of what you did? You’ve just started a kindness boomerang, like the one in the video I posted earlier today.
So, just be careful. When you catch yourself judging someone, even in a small way, just say to yourself “To each his own.” Or “Judge not lest you be judged”. These are my two favorites.
Here’s a video I thought summed this first week up great…don’t be too quick to judge.
Happy Friday everyone!
- Wahba, Orly. Kindness Boomerang: How to Save the World (and Yourself) Through 365 Daily Acts (p. 2). Flatiron Books. Kindle Edition.