“These difficult moments in our lives….can become triggers to bring up old stuff, that hasn’t been healed. These moments are gifts. If we lean into them, we can get the gift.”
~ Tara Igoe
It’s interesting how a fraction of a second can change your life, transforming it, at least for a short time.
A week ago, I posted a notice that I had a family emergency and would be offline for the remainder of the week. Here’s what happened…
Often, when my 16 year old son comes home from school, he enjoys going bike riding, and last week was no different. He came home from school, grabbed a snack and went out to ride his bike. He hadn’t been gone for 2 minutes when he called me saying he had lost control of his bike going down the hill by our house, hit a parked car and broke his leg.
I had my older son call the ambulance, put my shoes on, and raced out the door. By the time I got to him, there were 5 neighbors surrounding him. There were no indications of a break. His leg looked okay, other than a strange indentation just below the knee. However, when the paramedics arrived, and moved my son to the stretcher, it was clear there was something wrong. The left leg, just below the knee was clearly unstable, and he was in an extreme amount of pain.
I rode in the ambulance with my son. X-rays indicated a fractured right wrist. But, the worst part was he broke both bones in the lower part of his left leg and would require surgery. It appears that as he fell, his left leg got caught up in the bike.
On Tuesday morning, my son had surgery, in which a metal rod stretching from his knee to his ankle was placed INSIDE his tibia (the larger of the 2 bones in the lower part of the leg) and held in place with screws at his knee and ankle. This is how they fix breaks of this nature. He has no cast, all stabilizing is done internally. He is to put no weight on his foot for 6 weeks.
Because he also has a fractured wrist, this makes getting around very difficult. So, he is basically bed ridden. He has a wheel chair, but cannot push it himself-due to his broken wrist. He also has a specially made walker, which helps a bit. I am currently his primary caregiver.
There are approximately 5 weeks of school left for his school district, but he will not be returning to school. I am currently working with his guidance counselor and the school social worker to set up in-home instruction. We will be having an instructor come to our home 10 hours a week to help him finish off the school year.
So I will strive on and be strong, for my son needs my strength right now. I will take one day, one hour, one moment at a time. I will search for the lesson, and transform through the difficult times.
During stressful, difficult moments, I always try not to ask the question “Why is this happening to my son and our family..”. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. I believe our struggles and hard times are moments of growth and transformation. There are lessons in these difficult times, for my son as well as the rest of the family…though the lesson is difficult to see in the moment.
The rough times may seem like the end,
but they very well could be the beginning of something beautiful.
“Transition = Transformation”
~ Tara Igoe
Listen to this TedX Talk from La Jolla, California as Tara Igoe talks about using tough times, or times of transition as an opportunity for growth and transformation.
“Learn how to ‘feel your feelings’. The words ‘stress’ and ‘anxiety’ have such a negative connotation, and do a disservice to our actual feelings. We are meant to be here, to feel and express ourselves… Instead, ask yourself ‘how do I feel in this moment?’.”
~ Tara Igoe