Sometime in our lives, things happen that completely transform your life forever. For me, it was 22 years ago when I had a baby born with severe birth defects. So, severe that he only lived for 8 days. It was the most difficult week of my life by far. I watched as my little innocent son was hooked up to tubes and wires, and was poked and prodded. In the end, he was just too sick. I wrote about this a few weeks ago, as I took part in the Boundless Challenge, offered by Confessions of a reborn girl.

This is my angel, Alexander
After talking to his team of doctors, my family and I made the decision to remove him from life support and let him go. Before his final moments, we were able to hold him for the first time, after 8 days. We took many photos, which I still have to this day.


So, when I came across this non-profit, I knew I had to share it with all of you wonderful people. This non-profit is called “Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep.” (NILMDTS)

Screen Shot 2017-02-28 at 8.17.13 AM.png

NILMDTS, provides photography for parents who have suffered the loss of an infant, briefly stopping time, and giving a gift of remembrance. Trust me, this is about the best gift you could give a parent who has lost a child.

From their website:


To introduce remembrance photography to parents suffering the loss of a baby with a free gift of professional portraiture.

Our Work

NILMDTS trains, educates, and mobilizes professional quality photographers to provide beautiful heirloom portraits to families facing the untimely death of an infant. We believe these images serve as an important step in the family’s healing process by honoring the child’s legacy.


Maddux Achilles Haggard was born on Feb. 4, 2005, with a condition called myotubular myopathy. It prevented him from breathing, swallowing or moving on his own. On the sixth day of his young life, his parents, Mike and Cheryl Haggard had to make the excruciating decision to take him off life support. Before they did, they called photographer Sandy Puc’ to take black and white portraits of them cradling their son. Puc’ photographed the couple with Maddux at the hospital before he was removed from life support and after — when he was free from the tubes and the wires that had sustained him.

For more information on NILMDTS:

If you are a photographer, and would like to volunteer your services, contact NILMDTS through their website: Volunteer information.

A video showcasing parents experience with NILMDTS

Here are a few of their beautiful and touching portraits



More info: Homepage – Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep

17 thoughts on “Daily Inspiration: Stopping Time

  1. Oh goodness, this was an unexpected post and I have tears as I type. I am so sorry you lost your baby son, thank you for sharing your experience in order to pass on this information for others going through the same. I send a virtual hug 💜

    Liked by 1 person

      1. Such a tragedy is treated so differently now, at one time you were encouraged to put it behind you, have another child, often not even see or hold the child, let alone talk about them or have photos. This is much better.

        Liked by 1 person

  2. I too feel strange clicking the like button, but this is a lovely post. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I know it could not have been easy for you, but I also know it helped someone out there going through this very thing. What a lovely idea of stopping time, just for a moment. It does not make it any easier, but it is part of what makes us who we are. It is part of your path.

    Liked by 1 person

I'd love to know what you think!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.